Unsolicited Advice Part 2
- Anthony Miller Jr.
- Aug 5
- 1 min read
Presented by: Coach Anthony Miller
The car ride home...
I would like to offer you some unsolicited advice. This advice is backed by 16+ years of training and coaching experience, take it or leave.
Post-game: nothing negative.
I have a firm rule when it comes to talking to my kids after a game: I don't. Trust me, it is one of the hardest things to do as a parent, but it is extremely beneficial.
Before I adopted this practice, I would tell my boys about all the things they could have done differently. Then I realized how contradicting that was to the message I gave them before the game started, which was simply to do their best.
I realized that post-game criticism, regardless of how constructive I thought it was, negated that initial premise. The actual message it sent was that their best was not good enough unless it produced a desired outcome. That creates unnecessary pressure and disrupts the joy of playing.
So, my advice is to shy away from the post-game critique. If you feel compelled to say something, strictly focus on effort and highlights.
Sincerely,
Coach Miller
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